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Beefeater · Today 15:01
DH is itching to go out to watch the footie, I am really not fussed and would rather not watch it. Annoying though as he was out last night and the night before, feel likes it gives men a ticket to a night out all the time.
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Moonshiners · Today 15:05
I love the football and I'm a woman. DH couldn't give two sh*ts.
I'm off out tonight he will happily stay at home.
We just make sure we go out equally. Football isn't the problem.
MonsteraMama · Today 15:07
I'm really so glad we don't have anyone in this house for whom football is a personality trait tbh, it gets so old so quick! I'm not that arsed about people liking it but when it's an integral part of who they are as a person it's a bit much.
FoundObject · Today 15:07
feel likes it gives men a ticket to a night out all the time
Well, I hate football, but if I wanted to go on nights out all the time, I would. If it's a matter of childcare meaning it's difficult for you to both go out together, just make sure you also exercise your ability to go out at night for things you do enjoy. I've been out late three nights this week.
x2boys · Today 15:11
Why not join all the other threads moaning about football?
BlueScrunchies · Today 15:17
Me and my DP love the football, have season tickets and go as often as we can, our team has meant a lot to both of us since we were kids. When we can’t get childcare, we tag team the games and take friends / family instead, occasionally neither of us go and we stay home and watch together. Tonight’s game, is no exception, with it’s late kick off and us having a 1.5 year old, there hasn’t been a conversation of either of us going out to watch it. We will stay at home, look after our DD and watch the game together. The football isn’t the issue here, you have a DH problem.
SeeSeeRider · Today 15:22
x2boys · Today 15:11
Why not join all the other threads moaning about football?
Because a new one helps ram the message home that IT'S ALL RIGHT TO NOT LIKE FOOTBALL?
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Cinocino · Today 15:25
What difference does it make if he goes to watch it or not if you aren’t interested?
FuzzyStripes · Today 15:26
YANBU to dislike football but YABU to start another thread on it and use it as an excuse for the issues in your relationship.
Ruelzdontapply · Today 15:27
Nobody here will be watching the football DH isn't a fan of football.
I'm glad he's not into football means I don't have to watch it either.
The boys are all to little to watch it thankfully.
Jazzabel · Today 15:32
Most people watching the match won’t have even been born when England won the world cup, so it’s a massive deal to the supporters. Getting to the final isn’t something that happens every week so I don’t see how going out three nights in a row will become a thing. And there will definitely be loads of women out watching it. Me included. You sound like a bit of a kill joy to be honest. Why not go out and give watching it a go if it means a lot to him?
Beefeater · Today 15:33
Jazzabel · Today 15:32
Most people watching the match won’t have even been born when England won the world cup, so it’s a massive deal to the supporters. Getting to the final isn’t something that happens every week so I don’t see how going out three nights in a row will become a thing. And there will definitely be loads of women out watching it. Me included. You sound like a bit of a kill joy to be honest. Why not go out and give watching it a go if it means a lot to him?
Because we have 2 young kids
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FoundObject · Today 15:35
Beefeater · Today 15:33
Because we have 2 young kids
Jazzabel · Today 15:32
Most people watching the match won’t have even been born when England won the world cup, so it’s a massive deal to the supporters. Getting to the final isn’t something that happens every week so I don’t see how going out three nights in a row will become a thing. And there will definitely be loads of women out watching it. Me included. You sound like a bit of a kill joy to be honest. Why not go out and give watching it a go if it means a lot to him?
So send them with him ('History is being made! You wouldn't want the kids to miss it!') or stay at home with them and go out on the town at the next available opportunity yourself? You don't need a football match as an excuse for a night out?
cupcaske123 · Today 15:35
The problem isn't the football, it's him going out three nights in a row while you do sole parenting duties.
sweeneytoddsrazor · Today 15:36
Well it wasn't on last night or the night before so what was his excuse for them?
Cattery · Today 15:37
The whole tournament has been fabulous. Football at today’s level is a social occasion ie England in the final and possibly making history. People are very excited and praying for a win. Why be mealy-mouthed about it.
MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · Today 15:41
I love football, grew up in a house where everyone watched and everyone played (including my mum at county level when she was younger). DH has no interest, I don't watch as much club level football these days because part of the fun for me is watching with someone analysing the match etc. He'll watch some international games, this tournament he he didn't watch the group games, watched part of the quarter final , the semi and will watch tonight. I've watched loads, not just England, I've really enjoyed it. If you're not interested at all and not going to watch I can see why he wants to be with people who are.
easylikeasundaymorn · Today 15:42
Cinocino · Today 15:25
What difference does it make if he goes to watch it or not if you aren’t interested?
because it leaves her at home alone as the sole responsible parent looking after the kids for the third night in a row?
Perhaps she would like to go out with her friends for once, or at have a chilled evening while the their children's other parent does all the tea,bath, bed monotony.
Not to mention 3 nights out in a row is quite a lot of, presumably family, money.
YANBU OP. I couldn't care less about the football and even I know that the date for the final has been set for a while...if it meant so much to him he could have foregone one of the other two nights and prioritised that. Spending the whole weekend with mates rather than family is a pisstake.
Flavabobble · Today 15:44
You give enough of a monkey's to start a thread though aye?!
marcopront · Today 15:45
@easylikeasundaymorn
because it leaves her at home alone as the sole responsible parent looking after the kids for the third night in a row?
No that's down to him being a dick.
The football team wasn't on on Friday or Saturday but he went out those nights.
A reasonable man would say I want to go and watch the football on Sunday, so I'll stay on Saturday night and watch the children.
Cinocino · Today 15:50
@easylikeasundaymorn because it leaves her at home alone as the sole responsible parent looking after the kids for the third night in a row?
Perhaps she would like to go out with her friends for once, or at have a chilled evening while the their children's other parent does all the tea,bath, bed monotony.
Football has nothing to do with the fact that OP has a sh*tty partner who ditched her to all the evening children chores alone and hasn’t made up for it in anyway then.
If she would like to go out with her friends “for once” or have a chilled evening football isn’t stopping her other than one particular night. She can arrange to do any of those things tomorrow, or for the next 3 nights.
brunettemic · Today 15:52
MonsteraMama · Today 15:07
I'm really so glad we don't have anyone in this house for whom football is a personality trait tbh, it gets so old so quick! I'm not that arsed about people liking it but when it's an integral part of who they are as a person it's a bit much.
Out of interest, what is allowed to be an integral part of who someone is?
Tagyoureit · Today 15:52
You have a DH problem, not a football problem!
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